As seen in The Game

THE PICK UP ARTIST

7 moves that get any girl's number. The secrets the pros charge thousands for.

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Got you.

There are no secret moves. There's a sales pitch, and the man it's aimed at is you.

Here's the whole "system", for free, with what each move really is.

The moves, unmasked

Every one of these is sold as confidence. Look closer and it's a way to get round what she actually wants.

  • Negging

    Sold as: a backhanded compliment that knocks her down a peg, so she works for your approval.

    Really: putting someone down on purpose so they feel worse about themselves. That's how bullies work.

  • Push-pull

    Sold as: run hot, then cold, so she never knows where she stands.

    Really: making someone anxious on purpose. Keeping a person off balance is control, not chemistry.

  • Isolating the target

    Sold as: get her away from her friends, they'll only "block" you.

    Really: cutting her off from the people looking out for her. Her friends aren't obstacles. Notice the word "target". It turns up again in Andrew Tate's War Room.

  • Kino escalation

    Sold as: touch her a bit more each time and see what she lets you get away with.

    Really: testing how far you can push before she stops you. Touch needs a yes, not a lack of a no.

  • False time limit

    Sold as: say "I can only stay a minute" so she drops her guard.

    Really: lying to get past her guard. If the opener is a lie, what's the rest?

  • "Last minute resistance"

    Sold as: her "no" is just a hurdle. Keep going and get past it.

    Really: a no is a no. Pushing past it is pressure, and it can be a crime. Anyone teaching this is teaching you to ignore consent.

  • Peacocking

    Sold as: wear something loud so women can't ignore you.

    Really: the only harmless one on the list. Wear what you like. Just wear it because you like it.

Who's really getting played

The pick up scene is men selling to men. To keep you buying, they need you to feel like you're losing.

The book that started it

Neil Strauss's The Game (2005) made negging famous and turned pick up into a business of seminars and bootcamps.

Ten years later he wrote The Truth, about where that lifestyle left him.

Sources: The Game, Neil Strauss (Wikipedia)

The teacher who got banned

In 2014, videos of "dating coach" Julien Blanc grabbing women at his seminars caused an outcry. Australia cancelled his visa and the UK refused him entry.

Source: Julien Blanc (Wikipedia)

A man who teaches you to manipulate women is manipulating you too. You're not his student. You're his customer.

From the mansion to the War Room

The pick up house never really closed. It moved online, got a new logo and raised its prices.

Project Hollywood

The Game, mid-2000s

  • A Hollywood mansion where the top pick up gurus lived together
  • A guru at the top, and men paying to learn his moves
  • Women treated as targets to win
  • It fell apart in fights over money and ego

The War Room

Andrew Tate, 2020s

  • A paid, secretive "brotherhood" of hundreds of men worldwide
  • "Generals" at the top, and men paying to learn their methods
  • Women treated as income: leaked chats show members taught to push women into webcam work
  • It's at the centre of criminal cases in Romania and the UK

The "wizard" behind him

In 2023 the BBC read 12,000 pages of leaked War Room chats. A man calling himself "Iggy Semmelweis", a self-styled wizard, came across as its real teacher. A former member told them "Iggy is at the top."

The chats show him teaching men to take "sole authority" over a woman and "remove her entire support structure". That's isolating the target, the same move from the pick up books, taken much further. The BBC said members' chats described at least 45 women.

Andrew Tate denies all wrongdoing and has not been convicted. His spokesperson called the BBC's reporting false. His profile has his current legal status.

Sources: Bellingcat, Women's Agenda on the BBC investigation, The Game, Andrew Tate (Wikipedia)

Same blueprint, bigger price. A guru at the top, men paying at the bottom, and women as the product.

Spot the sales pitch

If a coach, book or channel does these, you're the mark.

  • Calls women "targets", "sets" or numbers
  • Treats dating as a game you win
  • Says her no is "a test"
  • Makes you feel like a loser, then sells the fix
  • Has a "secret" that's behind a paywall
  • Mocks the men who didn't buy in

What actually works

No tricks. These work because they're real, and they work on friends, bosses and dates alike.

  • Be curious. Ask a real question and listen to the answer.
  • Say what you mean. "I'd like to see you again" beats any line.
  • Take a no well. Smile, say "no worries", move on. It's the most confident thing you can do.
  • Have your own life. Skills, friends, something you care about. People notice.